This post is a continuation in the series of “40 Days to a Stronger Marriage,” originally posted by Laura at Peace of the Prairies.
If you missed my posts regarding Days 1 – 20 click here
Days 21 – 23: Ask your husband to make a list of three (attainable) things that you can do each day to help him feel loved. Then strive to do them, each day.
Requesting my husband to come up with 3 ways that I could show my love for him daily took him off guard. His first response was a series of humorous and saucy suggestions that were a serious overreach of what a married woman at home with a child could accomplish daily, but it resulted in some good natured flirting and ribbing, so who am I to complain? It honestly took him all week, but he has finally come up with these 3 simple requests:
1 – Greet him when he gets home from work with a kiss.
2 – Ask him about his day.
3 – When dinner is ready sit down at the table and eat with the family.
Historically, I have absolutely been known to bombard my husband with questions or suggestions of things that need to be done around the house when he walks in the door, rather than offering a kiss and asking about his day. I am also famous for setting the dinner table and then running around to do just a few more things (finish an email, clean the dishes) while baby is strapped in the high chair with Daddy at the table. That hands free time is just so short and far between these days. These requests are simple, but do present a challenge for me – all worth it, if it keeps my husband feeling happy and loved!
Day 24: Make your husband’s favorite meal for supper.
I will always be grateful that my husband makes this super easy on me! His favorite meal? Spaghetti! – just don’t forget the parmesan cheese 
Love my man!
Day 25: Write your husband a love letter.
Dearest Hubby –
When you wrap me in your flannel covered arms and tell me everything will be OK, I belief you and I relax, because I am secure in the comfort of your love. I thank God everyday for you and all that you are. You are such an amazing and wonderful father and more than I ever knew I wanted in my life. I find you as sexy and as fun as a father and husband as I did a single girl trying to get you to give me a ride to Florida in your jeep. I pray we always feel this passion and need for one another.
Love Always,
Erika
If you missed my posts regarding Days 1 – 20 click here
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Hey girl! I’m loving this series! I know I don’t comment often, but I’m reading! Now that we’re reading the Graceful Parenting book, it’s brought up alot of issues for us that we didn’t even know were issues. We def. need to focus on our marriage too!
Hi Liz! I’m so glad you are enjoying this series! My husband and I are too 🙂 I’m flattered each and every time you comment, but please don’t EVER feel pressured to do so!!! It counts so much more in my heart when you do so because you really like one of my posts – promise!! I have the Graceful Parenting book on my “to read” list and am so glad you are finding it so beneficial! As you know, I adore reading about your “little” {wink – I saw the Facebook post about the “are they all yours?” lol} family and have way before my little blog was even born! 😉 Hugs!
This is so sweet! I should ask Hubby what I can do to make him feel loved. I’ve been complaining he’s not romantic enough- who knows? Maybe if I show initiative, he’ll reciprocate! =D
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I think that sounds like an awesome plan 🙂 I am amazed with how much more “love” I’ve been getting since starting this series….I actually woke up to love notes and chocolate yesterday 😉
What a great idea. It reminds me of The Love Dare (which I’ve never done, but thought would be super cool!)
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I’ve never heard of The Love Dare – but am googling now 🙂 I’m always up for using tools and resources to strengthen my marriage! Thanks for the idea, Sanz!
How have I been missing this challenge? What a wonderful way to grow closer to each other. You’re right…your hubby makes fixing his favorite meal easy :). Spaghetti is a favorite here, too. I like the love letter idea. It’s been way too long since I’ve sat and written a letter to my hubby. I should get on that today.
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Jennifer – I’m so glad the post inspired you to write a love letter! My husband and I are enjoying the heck out of this series and really benefiting from taking time to focus on our marriage! I truly hope you enjoy the remainder of the posts in this series 🙂